Green with envy: to be very unhappy because someone has something that you want
Ever wonder about the origin of the phrase, “Green With Envy”?
Green is traditionally a color associated with illness, dating back to the Greeks.
But it wasn’t until Shakespeare that the notion of being “Green With Envy” really started to take shape.
In Othello, Iago warns Othello “beware, my lord, of jealousy;/It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock/The meat it feeds on.”
Transparency PSA… don’t read this if you don’t like raw, honest, for real life talk.
My whole life I’ve done the whole “I wish I had that or those or their ” envy self talk. I think for the majority of people, (minus Mother Theresa, The Dalai Lama, and other amazing people like them) we’ve all been green with envy in some way, shape, or form in our lifetime.
I know I have. It’s not a pretty thing to admit. Maybe you’ll think less of me.
But, as I always say, I’m just keepin it real.
Or, if my son is around, I’ll say, “I’m just keeping it realistic homie” just so he thinks I’m not a cool mom. I totally have him fooled. I am a cool mom. He just doesn’t realize it yet. hahahhahaha. jkjk (I think I’m funny WAY too frequently).
So, I’ve done a lot of work on myself from inside over the last few years, and I can say, the more and more I am comfortable with who I am as a person, the less “I wish I hads” envy come up. It’s liberating.
Don’t get me wrong. I still struggle, but, it’s more in the arena of, I wish I had that butt, or those breasticles or something, but, if I want that butt, then I have to do something about it. And I’m not going to have that butt if my current butt doesn’t have the anatomy of the possibility of obtaining the butt of envy!
OR I do it with my business. “I wish I was selling that kind of volume, or, I knew I shouldn’t have doubted myself and launched that one cool product line like so and so is now doing and killing it with it.”
This leads me to eating a piece of humble pie… or humble chocolate cake, because I’m the only one getting in my own dang way!
There’s no one to blame. What there is, is being thankful for enough growth to recognize that I’m doing it and do what I can to switch my thought pattern.
“I’m not going to doubt myself so much. Not everything I do ends in failure, etc”. Just believe you can do it. If you try your hardest with the best tools you have access to, there’s no eating any sort of humble food. You did your best!
There is so much envy in this world.
Our social media platforms don’t help the situation.
We look at, and assume, because someone has more followers and a crap ton of posed happy photos, they take 83 vacations a year, that their lives are AMAzing.
And yes, I know there are some who actually have fulfilled lives and worked hard and we perceive it as this world of perfectness (I make up a lot of words), but, perfect is not reality.
And perfect means something different to everyone.
My version of perfect is someone who is peaceful in nature, intentionally living by giving back to others, humble, shines their light, takes time for family and friends, and really enjoys the little things in life.
Perfect to someone else might be a BMW in the driveway, the most expensive top brand eyeglasses for each day of the week, two kids in private school, a place in the Hamptons, the best cheekbones that the top rated plastic surgeon did and who is now a family friend, etc.
And there is nothing wrong with either. It just shows that we all have different interpretations of perfect.
AND THAT’S OKAY.
So much has to do with perception.
We can choose to either be thankful for what we have and who we are, OR live our lives envious of everybody else so we never REALLY live our lives. What sounds better to you?
We are all flawed human beings.
NO one on earth gets out of that.
Maybe we’re all more alike than we realize.
I love hearing different takes on this big ole beautiful life we all get to live, so please share any insights, thoughts, or questions in the comments below.
ANNNNNND…. I realize this post probably isn’t going to help me sell this cool ring Rose Cut Green Onyx Sterling Silver Ring….
but, we have bigger fish to fry, people.
Maybe this ring is a sweet reminder of what you DON’T want to become and to celebrate alllllll that you HAVE instead of alllllll you wish you could have!